ddl: mitigate the issue that multiple owner might exist during force to be owner (#56963)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #56963

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #56924, #56713

Problem Summary:

What changed and how does it work?

older versions which don't have the fix of #54689, when upgrade and forcing newer version node to be owner, multiple owner might exist at the same time, this pr tries to mitigate the issue, see code comments for more detail

also mitigate #57003 by sleep after force to be owner

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
  • start a v7.5.0 cluster with 3 TiDBs, rolling upgrade to this pr, success
  • start a v8.1.1 cluster with 3 TiDBs, rolling upgrade to this pr, success
  • start a v7.5.0 cluster with 3 TiDBs, stop all TiDBs, then start them with this pr, success
    • Note: after this PR, we will aquire distributed lock before start domain, so in this case, the 2 non-owner node will not involve in schema version sync for upgrade DDL
• No need to test

  • I checked and no code files have been changed.

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

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[ti-chi-bot]

[LGTM Timeline notifier]

Timeline:

• 2024-11-01 03:00:06.288381663 +0000 UTC m=+577919.127537206: ☑️ agreed by D3Hunter.
• 2024-11-01 03:02:21.149792415 +0000 UTC m=+578053.988947960: ☑️ agreed by yudongusa.

[D3Hunter]

/retest

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