minor: sync flashinfer and add turbomind as 3rdparty

[zhyncs]

Motivation

cc @lzhangzz @lvhan028

Modifications

Checklist

• Format your code according to the Code Formatting with Pre-Commit.
• Add unit tests as outlined in the Running Unit Tests.
• Update documentation / docstrings / example tutorials as needed, according to Writing Documentation.
• Provide throughput / latency benchmark results and accuracy evaluation results as needed, according to Benchmark and Profiling.

[zhyncs]

ref #3088 (comment)