update 3rdparty and rms norm for sgl-kernel

[zhyncs]

Motivation

Modifications

Checklist

• Format your code according to the Code Formatting with Pre-Commit.
• Add unit tests as outlined in the Running Unit Tests.
• Update documentation / docstrings / example tutorials as needed, according to Writing Documentation.
• Provide throughput / latency benchmark results and accuracy evaluation results as needed, according to Benchmark and Profiling.

[ByronHsu]

the new rmsnorm can now pass session test?

[zhyncs]

yes